Day One, Club
Went to the club last night to meet a friend. I've been attracted to this guy for awhile, but have never been able to kiss close him. He's stood me up on several occasions before, and the only time we seem to successfully meet is at the club. So, we meet there again. This time, though, I'm determined to put some of the things I've been reading to the test. So I get there and scope around, and see a couple interesting people. But I still don't have the nerve to approach. So then I stand next to this HG (like a male version of HB), and I open with "hi" and ask him about the beer koozy that he has. Its his first time there, he is a visitor from another city. We talk for about ten minutes, and my friend comes up and finds me. I introduce him to the new guy (whose name, up until then, I hadn't learned), Mike. Mike and I continue to talk, but there are several lulls in the conversation. We bring up work (we work for competitors, which is kinda cool), life in our respective cities, etc. We also do a lot of eye contact, I was surprised how much eye contact can be maintained if one of us initiates. At that point I crash and burn, have nothing to talk about, and the HG decides its time to walk around and find someone new. He said goodbye to me, and I said the same, although I forgot his name. Oops.
So, analysis. What I did right: Obeyed the 3s rule; Opened; Transitioned from opener to multiple topics; good eye contact. What I did wrong: Didn't have some canned topics to move into; didn't have any way to move to kino; forgot his name.
It was a good learning experience. In the meantime, I ended up spending most of the rest of the night with the guy I had planned to meet there. We did lots of kino, mostly while dancing. Still no kiss close though. I'm beginning to think that one is hopeless.
In the meantime, I've been practicing the eye contact while walking around public places. One of the added challenges of being a gay AFC moving toward gay PUA is that you also need to be able to identify appropriate targets. There are lots of str8 guys out there, and the assumption is generally that they are str8. Its obviously easier at gay or mixed clubs, because the assumption there is that everyone is gay. Of course, the thing that constantly amazes me is just how many gay men there are in the world. A lot more than people are willing to admit.
Tupolev
So, analysis. What I did right: Obeyed the 3s rule; Opened; Transitioned from opener to multiple topics; good eye contact. What I did wrong: Didn't have some canned topics to move into; didn't have any way to move to kino; forgot his name.
It was a good learning experience. In the meantime, I ended up spending most of the rest of the night with the guy I had planned to meet there. We did lots of kino, mostly while dancing. Still no kiss close though. I'm beginning to think that one is hopeless.
In the meantime, I've been practicing the eye contact while walking around public places. One of the added challenges of being a gay AFC moving toward gay PUA is that you also need to be able to identify appropriate targets. There are lots of str8 guys out there, and the assumption is generally that they are str8. Its obviously easier at gay or mixed clubs, because the assumption there is that everyone is gay. Of course, the thing that constantly amazes me is just how many gay men there are in the world. A lot more than people are willing to admit.
Tupolev
posted by Tupolev at 7:59 PM
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Oh, I forgot to mention, one of the topics I discussed was talking in a foreign language. I asked him if he spoke another language, he said a little spanish. I said that I thought talking in another language was hot. He gave me very negative vibe on that statement. Need to rethink that into a routine, it was definitely not the way to approach it. Will give that some more thought.
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